Getting engaged is one of the most exciting things possible. The feeling of joy is matched only with the overwhelming feeling of love. However, not everyone takes engagement news the same way. With so many children moving away from home and starting their adult lives elsewhere, there’s a good chance your mom hasn’t spent a ton of quality time with your future husband. Plus, some parents find it hard to let their children go. Therefore, telling mom you’re getting married can be hard. It can be doubly so if your fiancee didn’t ask permission from your family ahead of time. In order to have the conversation go as smoothly as possible, make sure you and your fiancee are prepared.
How To Tell Mom You’re Getting Married
In most cases, parents are thrilled to hear that their children have found love. However, sharing the news that you’ve just received the engagement ring of your dreams can be difficult. Many parents are very protective of their children, and they will want to speak at length to your future husband. When telling your parents you are getting married, be sure to temper their desire to grill your fiancee. Focus on how happy you are, how beautiful the diamond ring is, and your plans for the future. One thing can really keep the peace is having a date selected. This shows your family that you’re serious about your marriage and future together.
The best way to tell your parents is in person. However, this is not always practical. In the days before social media, the news of your engagement could last until a trip home was planned. Now, though, engagement news spreads quickly, and in many cases a phone will have to suffice. If possible, video chat is a better way to tell your parents you’re getting married. They’ll be able to see your excitement, you’ll be able to present a unified front, and you’ll be able to show of the diamond engagement ring.
Things To Avoid
In the rare instance that your parents might be overly worried or potentially upset, warn your fiancee ahead of time. They will need to be prepared to answer tough questions, especially if you haven’t had the chance to spend lots of time together. Be sure to keep the conversation positive, and boost the confidence of your partner as needed. If you know the conversation could quickly turn sour, try and keep it short as possible. Finally, be sure to let your mother know you’re a grown woman, and you’ve made the best decision in your life saying yes.
If you find that your mother is still worried about your engagement news, perhaps it’s time to visit and show her the engagement ring in person!
For many, Labor Day weekend signals the end of summer. However, because it is a three day weekend for most people, it is a popular time to get engaged during a romantic getaway. If you are planning to propose this Labor Day weekend, keep these helpful tips in mind!
Don’t Wait Too Long
While you may be planning a Labor Day proposal, that doesn’t mean you have to wait until Labor Day to propose. Depending on the travel arrangements for your weekend, you probably want to ask her either Friday night or Saturday. If you’re arriving at a hotel or campsite late Friday night, then find the right moment to present her with a custom designed engagement ring on Saturday. Waiting to ask once you have already decided to pop the question just provides more chances for something to go wrong. By asking earlier in the weekend, you’ll have plenty of time to enjoy the romantic getaway.
Plan For A Quiet Moment
One of the most important things to do when planning a proposal is to pick a quiet moment for popping the question. Be sure to plan a romantic weekend getaway that provides these perfect opportunities. Whether its standing on the hotel balcony, a quiet walk through a vineyard, or sitting by a campfire, there are plenty of great times to ask for her hand in marriage. One of the things to consider is whether or not you want to propose indoors or outside. This will help you plan ahead for weather, as well as come up with a second option in case the moment isn’t right.
Be Sure To Pack The Ring!
It may seem like the most basic of advice, but be sure to bring the engagement ring with you on your vacation. Since the proposal will be a surprise, forgetting the ring is possible. Pack the ring in a safe spot that is also hidden. A good place to store the ring box before asking is with your accessories, such as your watch. This will prevent her from stumbling across the ring while searching for some toothpaste or an oversized T shirt to sleep in.
Any relationship with a future deserves an engagement ring. However, the act of proposing requires a little bit more than knowing you’ve found the one. Whether you plan on doing something crazy like proposing while skydiving or something more classic like a candle lit dinner, the proposal itself takes a lot of planning. In addition to popping the question at the right time in the right place, the engagement ring itself requires plenty of thought. It can be nerve wracking to learn about diamonds, budget for the cost an engagement ring, and finally to pick the perfect ring for her. But that is truly only have the battle. You still need to ask her parents for permission (or not) and determine the best day to propose. If all of this has your head spinning, relax. If she’s the one, then figuring out when to actually propose will be a breeze.
The Best Day To Propose
Ask any couple about their engagement story, and you’re likely to hear a wildly different take on the proposal. Many brides will claim they knew something was up early in the day. Whether it was the special dinner reservations, the awkwardly timed vacation, or the simple fact of him getting a haircut, future husbands often tip their hand. However, just as many brides to be are completely shocked by the proposal. The truth is, the best day to propose may not always be the day you planned. It is quite possible to plan a trip to the beach only for it to storm all weekend. It is also possible to pick the one night restaurant service is miserable or to get a parking ticket. In these cases, take it as a sign from the universe to wait a little bit longer.
When it comes to getting engaged, the best proposals happen when a couple is truly in love. If this is the case, then the ring will be perfect, he’ll overcome any possible butterflies, and she’ll be able to overlook the fact he’s got a couple dozen roses “hidden” in the trunk. If you plan on getting engaged soon, trust your heart, and be sure not to stick the ring inside her dessert!
Many people find getting engaged to be quite stressful. Not only is there the actual task of proposing, there are lots of other things to think about. One thing that many men find stressful is asking her family’s permission to get engaged. However, this is a very traditional step. In many cases, young couples today skip this step. If you find yourself shopping for engagement rings, you may consider whether or not you want to ask for her hand in marriage. While there are many benefits in asking, there are plenty of reasons not to as well.
Pros of Asking Permission To Get Engaged
One of the biggest reasons in asking permission is that a marriage will combine two families. Once married, you will have a new mother-in-law and father-in-law. For many parents of the bride, asking is an important step because it helps develop trust. In many cases, asking permission is simply a formality. Unless there are extenuating circumstances, many couples will have met each other’s parents before getting engaged. In these instances, asking should be a simple step. Additionally, the bride’s parents often contribute to paying for the wedding ceremony, and they may feel they deserve input. Finally, asking permission shows respect to her parents in a very traditional way, and this is important to a lot of families.
When Is It Acceptable Not To Ask Permission?
While many future grooms do ask the bride’s parents, there are plenty of cases where it is acceptable to not ask. The obvious ones are when her parents are no longer around. However, millennials are more likely to move way from their hometown than ever. This can present some logistical issues. Additionally, independent young women may look down on the tradition of asking– the only permission they need is from themselves. Whether you decide to ask for permission to get engaged or not, think the decision through. Even if she doesn’t have parents, she may have grandparents or siblings that would appreciate a heads up. Finally, if you plan on eloping, then you probably do not need to ask either.
No matter what you do, be sure to plan out your proposal ahead of time. Be sure you properly budget for an engagement ring you can afford. Also, designing a custom ring just for her might be the best way to show you’re serious. When planning to get engaged, the best decisions are going to come from honest discussions with your partner. These will help you answer the important questions like whether or not you should ask for permission to get engaged from her parents.
While most Americans recognize the 4th of July as Independence Day, it is actually a great time to get engaged. Between family BBQs and fireworks, there’s a good chance you and your future bride will be surrounded by people you love. Additionally, the fireworks offer a perfect opportunity because your night will literally end with a celebratory bang. If you are planning to propose tomorrow, take a couple of these ideas into consideration.
Before You Leave The House
Independence Day is usually a day long celebration. One of the best times to present her with an engagement ring is before you even leave the house. This gives you the chance to have a romantic moment alone. After she gets ready– make sure she’s finished her hair and make up– drop to one knee and ask her for her hand in marriage. Proposing before you leave the house means their will be plenty to celebrate at the party. Plus, this will give her a chance to show off her ring in the daylight to all of party guests.
During The BBQ
If your beloved loves to be the center of attention, then proposing during the BBQ is another option. There are two approaches to this: quietly or in front of everyone. If you intend to propose to her alone, though, your best bet would be to do it before leaving the house. When you decide to ask her to marry you in front of a bunch of people, make sure you keep eye contact with her and make sure she’s the focus. A great way to do this is by proposing a toast, and then asking for her hand in marriage. If you can pull this off, you’ll be the life of the party for the rest of the day. Plus, since its the 4th of July, you’ll never forget the day you got engaged!
Just Watch The Fireworks
One last option is proposing during the fireworks. This can be extremely romantic, especially if the two of you have a spot to yourselves. However, a key part of proposing is making sure she’s the center of attention. Plus, since you are presenting her with a diamond engagement ring, you want to make sure she’s able to see it sparkle! If you plan on proposing during the fireworks, just be certain you have some space. You want the proposal to be a romantic moment she remembers forever, so plan your proposal accordingly!
If you recently became engaged, then congratulations are in order. However, one thing you may not be prepared for is how to tell your proposal story to strangers. While it may seem odd that you would need to consider this, the fact of the matter is you’ll need to practice. In fact, you’ll probably be retelling the story quite frequently in the coming months. Wedding planning will require working with many different types of people across industries, but you should be ready to tell your story over and over. In order to help you prepare for telling your proposal story, we’ve put together this short guide to help you remember the most important parts.
Location, Location, Location
One of the first questions many people ask is “where did he propose?” Although you may want to give a quick answer such as “at the beach” or “on vacation”, you should share details about the proposal location. While it may seem insignificant at the time, providing the small details can help wedding consultants and planners do their job. Little moments from the proposal story might influence wedding announcements, reception decorations, or perhaps even the wedding rings. Additionally, the location of your proposal will remain with you forever. It helps to keep those memories fresh by remembering the little things. Think about the time of day, the smell of the air, and how the location makes your proposal story unique. All of these things will help you explain your love to the strangers who are helping put the wedding together.
Get The Words Just Right, Even If He Didn’t
Proposing is an exciting moment, and it’s possible all of the exact words are now a blur. Did he tell you how beautiful you look without mumbling? Did he mention spending the rest of your lives together before showing the ring? Chances are you were so excited at the sight of the engagement ring that you don’t remember every word. However, this is quite common for many brides to be! Plus, the other good news is you get to retell the story how you want to, so if he mixed up his words a little bit, no one else has to know. Telling your proposal story will help you remember the moment the way you felt it happened.
Don’t Make Your Proposal Story Last Too Long
While some wedding planning events can take hours– just ask any lady who has tried on dresses– many of the planning requires shorter interactions with strangers. Although the caterers are thrilled you’ve hired them, they probably don’t want an hour of your story. As your engagement story gets more refined, you’ll find the right places to keep the story quick. Meeting with the wedding officiant probably requires a longer story than meeting with the bartenders, for example.
In the end, your proposal story will forever be your moment. Remember it the best you can, and be prepared to share it with tons of strangers. To make it easier, keep it short, and focus on the best details of the time he dropped to a knee. This makes wedding planning interactions easier, and you’ll be prepared to share the story when someone tells you “Congrats!”
Spring is officially sprung, and love is in the air. As the grass grows greener and flowers are in bloom, many couples are coming out of their winter hibernation and making summer plans. In fact, there’s a good chance that you have a wedding invitation in your mail right now. With so much excitement for the future, you may be planning your own engagement. However, one of the hardest parts of getting engaged is planning out the proposal. In order to help you plan, we’ve put together some spring proposal ideas. Consider this your road map to getting her to say “Yes!”
Love Is In Bloom
After the long months of winter, spring brings warmer weather and outdoor opportunities. One way to take advantage of this is by visiting a conservatory or arboretum. The blooming flowers and green foliage offer excellent scenery for a proposal. Take a walk around looking at the beautiful greenery and stop in front of your lover’s favorite flowers. Then, make your move. Whether you plan on giving a speech or dropping to a knee, there’s no way she can turn down an engagement ring when surrounded by such natural beauty!
Take A Hike
If your future spouse is into adventure, then taking a hike is the perfect way to propose in the spring. Before you leave, make sure you secure your custom engagement ring! To make the proposal perfect, pack a picnic of her favorite foods. It also would be romantic to sneak a small bottle of champagne for a celebratory toast. Mountain tops, waterfalls, and lakes all make for a great secluded spot for asking her hand in marriage. Plus, not only will be she be wowed by the proposal, you’ll have plenty of time alone to discuss your future together on the hike back.
Get Out of Town
Another great idea for a spring proposal is to head out for the weekend. Take a short road trip to a favorite getaway or look for affordable flights to a city you’ve always wanted to visit. With a little planning, a romantic getaway is the perfect spring proposal idea. City explorers would do well to book a boutique hotel room while adventurers who prefer the countryside provide the perfect time to stay in a bed and breakfast. If she’s an extrovert, proposing in public in front of a landmark building can create a romantic memory that will last a lifetime. If she’s a bit more on the private side, take a nighttime walk before popping the big question.
These are just a few examples of spring proposal ideas. If you have a great proposal story, let us know about it by leaving a comment. We may even feature it in a future blog post!
Welcome to another installment of Adiamor’s Ring Stories! Here at Adiamor, we pride ourselves on working closely with clients and using our expertise to bring their design ideas to life, jointly creating the perfect piece of customized jewelry. Because proposals and engagements are so personal, we get a lot of special requests for custom engagement ring designs as well as requests to tweak some element of our existing styles. In the Ring Stories series, we bring you behind the scenes as we work to make engagement and wedding day dreams come true.
One of our more interesting recent projects came to us by way of Leonard and Zeljka, a couple from Rancho Palos Verdes, CA. With plans for a summer wedding, Leonard approached us to discuss creating a complete wedding set including a wedding band for him and a matching engagement ring and wedding band for his bride to be.
Zeljka’s Wedding Rings
For Zeljka’s rings, Leonard knew that custom pieces designed with special details and new methods were the only way to go. With this in mind, we created the settings for both the engagement ring and matching diamond wedding band in 19 karat white gold.
19 Karat White Gold Engagement Ring
A somewhat new addition to the family of fine jewelry metals, 19 karat white gold is a recently developed gold alloy incorporating metals that were once deemed too difficult to procure or work with, most commonly palladium. This innovation results in white gold using no nickel (a popular base metal but a common allergen) that is stronger, harder, and requires no rhodium plating. Zeljka’s rings will never look dull or yellowish as traditionally created white gold sometimes does over time, ensuring that her jewelry will always be as beautiful and vibrant as it was the day she put it on.
Zeljka’s engagement ring features a flared band with 0.50cttw in channel set princess cut accent diamonds, and a gorgeous 1.01 carat princess cut center stone in F color and SI2 clarity. The matching wedding band is a classic channel set eternity ring with princess cut diamonds in a total carat weight of 0.25.
Leonard’s Wedding Band
Like many grooms, Leonard wanted a wedding band that would complement his bride’s dazzling diamonds without upstaging them. He chose a pipe cut men’s wedding band in a satin finish, with a high polish off-center groove accent. Leonard’s ring is a part of our permanent collection and can be purchased from Adiamor at RB1095.
Above, Leonard’s wedding band shines in one of our signature boxes, accompanied by his other accessories for the ceremony. Working with this client was a joy from start to finish, and the happy couple was kind enough to share some photos from their special day including this one with a guest appearance from a lucky ladybug!
In Adiamor’s Ring Stories, we feature the custom rings that we found exceptional joy in creating, and the happy couples that wear them. Check this blog regularly for more Ring Stories and other behind-the-scenes info, style tips, jewelry in the news, and more!
If you like the idea of a holiday proposal, but didn’t feel that Thanksgiving, Hanukah, or Christmas were the right time to make such an important gesture, consider a glamorous midnight proposal as you ring in the new year. Unlike other winter holidays, New Year’s Eve is not religious in origin or considered overtly family-oriented, and as such it’s a much better time for many people who feel conflicted about an occasion personal to the couple mixing with these other celebrations. For these couples, a New Year’s Eve proposal is an excellent idea.
The anticipation, spectacle, and merriment of New Year’s festivities are simply an engagement party waiting to happen, as the countdowns, confetti, and champagne toasts provide the perfect backdrop for immediately celebrating this new step in your relationship. Tapping in to this wonderful celebration of new beginnings in order to celebrate the beginning of your lives together is sure to leave you with an engagement story worth telling and retelling.
Your sense of romance and creativity on this occasion will make it a night to remember, and in this post we’ve put together some sample New Year’s Eve proposal ideas to encourage and inspire you as you prepare for the big night.
A New Year’s Eve Proposal Out On the Town
New Year’s Eve parties are intensely celebratory and upbeat in nature as everyone focuses on wrapping up the last year and starting the new one on a positive note. Everyone dresses beautifully, the entertainment and refreshments are top-notch, and many cities have their own special way of marking the turn of the year. From the famed ball in Times Square to small town fireworks displays, dropping to one knee and making your proposal at the stroke of midnight with a stunning spectacle backing you up makes an unforgettable impression (not to mention a fantastic photo op).
Set the tone for the night by buying your sweetie a dress for the occasion, or treating her to professional hair and makeup services, and tip the DJ to play a few of “your” songs throughout the night. If the party host or venue owner where you and your beloved choose to celebrate is a good friend, you could even enlist their help in making a special announcement for you just before midnight, or including a blessing for you and your new fiancee in the champagne toast.
A Romantic Getaway
Some couples prefer to go on relaxing vacations together to celebrate New Year’s Eve, away from crowds and winter weather and surrounded by creature comforts like a roaring fireplace and room service. Superstition dictates that the way you observe the change of the year influences how you spend the year to come– with that in mind, you can’t go wrong by sharing an intimate moment with your special someone and becoming engaged at midnight in a private or semi-private setting. A romantic dinner in a nice restaurant or delivered to your suite, followed by your New Year’s Eve proposal on a moonlit terrace just as one year passes into another is the height of romance.
What qualifies as a good New Year’s Eve getaway is as unique as the love and memories the two of you share. You could return to the site of a previous trip you took together, or to her hometown for a nostalgic touch. If you both like the outdoors, you could rent a cabin in the mountains or spend the holiday camping in a warmer climate. If it’s in your budget, whisking her away to a romantic city like Paris or Copenhagen is almost guaranteed to make your proposal a solid yes.
The Year Ahead
The glamour of the night itself is enough to make any proposal shine, but the right words make a difference. To make your New Year’s Eve proposal even more surprising and exciting, tie it in with the expected conversations that take place this time of year. Strike up a discussion of the previous year’s high points or, if it was a difficult year, the ways you supported one another and overcame obstacles together, and ask your intended about the things she hopes to do or to have accomplished by this time next year. You can then launch into your proposal, explaining that you want to be celebrating your engagement or newlywed status and naming assorted things you want to share every year after.
Another subject that naturally comes up is the practice of making New Year’s resolutions. It’s likely that you won’t even have to wait long for someone else to bring it up, but you can always start the conversation yourself. When it’s your turn, you might say that you still have an unfulfilled resolution from the previous year that you need to take care of first: a resolution to ask for your sweetheart’s hand in marriage. Other ways of making a clever proposal through this tradition include nonchalantly listing “get married” among your new resolutions, or adding “marry me” to your beloved’s list.
From left: Split Shank Halo Setting for Pear Shaped Diamond in 14k White Gold, starting at $2290 (R3047); Custom Fit Basket Solitaire Thin Band Engagement Ring in 18k Rose Gold, starting at $465 (R2998); French Cut Cushion Halo Setting in 18k Yellow Gold, starting at $1390 (R2940)
As we close out 2014 and turn our attention to the beginning of a new year, we hope that you’ll continue to choose Adiamor for the perfect gifts, engagement rings, and wedding bands that make all of life’s important moments. For assistance in choosing the perfect ring for your New Year’s Eve proposal, selecting a loose diamond to pair with a setting, and ensuring that the ring you choose arrives on time, contact us by phone or e-mail.
Thanksgiving proposals have gained a lot of ground over the past decade; because there’s no frenzied shopping for gifts or lavish décor involved, many people have come to regard Thanksgiving as a more family-oriented holiday. If tradition, the home, and family gatherings are most meaningful to you and your beloved, why not prepare one of these Thanksgiving proposals to start your life together?
Breaking the wishbone from the turkey is a long-standing ritual that has become part of many Thanksgiving celebrations. Remove the bone while carving and serving the turkey, clean it, and put it in a safe place to dry. (If you’re not hosting or carving, make sure that the person in charge knows that you need it!)
Tradition holds that two people grasp opposite ends of the wishbone, and whoever ends up with the larger piece after breaking it will be the one whose wish comes true. While you can’t control the outcome, you can prepare and have an eloquent, romantic proposal ready to suit either result. If you hold the larger piece, you can say something like “I need you to help my wish come true—will you marry me?” If she comes out ahead after you break the wishbone, you can say “I don’t know what you wished for, but I think I can make one of your wishes come true right now.” Play with these statements to make the words and references your own for a proposal that is both whimsical and heartfelt.
This type of proposal, while potentially unique and memorable, carries one major caveat: use good judgment about how you choose to conceal or present the ring. Will finding it where you’ve decided to hide it be a pleasant, romantic experience for her? Will it be easy to ensure that ring doesn’t end up on the wrong plate, in the trash, or—worst of all—in the mouth of an unknowing recipient? You don’t want the memory of your Thanksgiving marriage proposal to include rushing a parent or younger sibling to the hospital or dentist’s office because you served their meal with some very expensive garnish!
Choose something pretty, pleasant to touch, and easy to clean from the ring with a napkin immediately after the big moment. Burying it in the turkey, stuffing, or casseroles? Certainly not! Topping a slice of pumpkin pie or cranberry sauce with a dollop of whipped cream and a sparkling engagement ring? Absolutely.
If you’re attached to this idea but concerned about the mess and potential troubles, there’s also the option of skipping the food component altogether. If your family dinner includes fancy table settings and cloth napkins, you can incorporate your proposal into her place setting. Slip the engagement ring around her napkin in place of a traditional napkin ring (or tie on with ribbon if the ring is too small), or hide it underneath her demitasse cup. This involves some very precise timing to ensure that you and the rest of those in attendance are at the table before she discovers her engagement ring and you make your proposal speech, but if you enlist the help of your dining companions, it can be done!
In most American families and groups of friends who gather to share Thanksgiving dinner, it has become a tradition for one of the hosts to say something for which they are thankful that year and have each guest around the table follow suit. Arrange with your host to be the last person called upon, and when it’s your turn, talk about your bride-to-be and all the reasons you’re thankful to have her in your life. Then, state that there’s one more thing that would make you the happiest and most thankful person alive: her hand in marriage.
Adiamor makes marriage proposal dreams come true. Our selection of certified loose diamonds and elegant engagement ring settings can be combined to design your own engagement ring to fit most budgets while yielding an engagement ring you’ll be proud to give your beloved.